Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? Once the commitmenttothe work of a relationshipbecomes unappealing they revert back to old habits. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. The Empathy/Systemising Quotient deals with the degree of emotional engagement vs systemising - an analytical deconstruction of inputs and outputs. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. WebMy (soon to be) ex wife had little sympathy whenever I was sick, and honestly it really sucked. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. Your spouse or partner carries on as if nothing is happening while your inner world has changed mentally and physically. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. He made me pay that year for leaving. (and the smell, yuck) Even his clothes smell like old grease. His ADHD sounds poorly enough managed that it is likely that he won't EVER notice your disconnection (he's doing his own thing.) Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. I signed up for a local meal prep service, where they prepped a few dinners. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just let me sleep it off. I was treated for cancer a few years ago & this really threw things into sharp relief. Being Married to Someone Who Doesn't Care. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. My husband continued to be gone 4-5 nights a week with activities and my kids were completely out of control during this time, so I was exhausted and dealing with severe behavior issues each evening. It makes your partner retreat - the opposite of wanting to connect. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. Should also consider the stress my wife is dealing with at work. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. Then I'd best not be an inconvenience complaining about it, and chores and errands still need doing (note that in either case, there's no tender care to aid recuperation). We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. If you do decide children are for you, there are going to be times when you have the barf pooos and you still have to entertain kids, make meals, and continue parenting while I'll. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. That's just Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. She says take medicine or go to doctor. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. By then its too late. Need help with your relationship? But know that people can take a while to be retrained to react differently. Really? Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read. I am sorry for your situation. Just the feeling at the moment. Sometimes it's commitment to dinner hour where you discuss things together (rather than eating alone). He was disgusted. My husband would blame me for ruining his life. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. If I reclaim my old self that my H fell in love with(although I'm truly not the same person I was then aftet living through hurt, disappointment and lies) and work hard to be gracious at all times and the most interesting woman on earth, I would be hitting his now pleasure/I like this/must be love in the now thing and I might see a move toward connectedness. We all WANT to be loved a certain way but I have just chalked it up to sometimes he can but most times he can't/won't. (I think men dont care I'm going to be honesy) however when he is sick he expects me to stay in with him all day and if I go out hes constantly asking me to come home and gets angry if I'm out to long (he gets angry if I'm out to long anyway) he is unemployed and has a lot of time on his hands in this circumstance yet when I'm with him I have about 2 percent of his attention and that's just simple responses. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. I feel like crap so I have no plans of running errands. Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. I take and I take, and then I take some more. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I like the don't be upset if I pull a you on you comment. is already like this, it will only get worse. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. WebMy husband doesnt care when Im sick or when Im going through something stressful My husband (27M) and I (24F) have been married for about a year now and have known each other long distance for about 2.5 years. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. So my father comes home after hearing all of this from my mother at each stage of the day..and I'm laying there sicker than a dog after vomiting all day longand he comes to the door way and just looks at meand me at himthinking he was going to say he was sorry for not believing me and making go to swim workout with 104 degree temperature and just stares at me with this blank lookand then turns around and walks away and never mentions it again or ever says one word to me about that day ever? Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. Anyway, I got way off track here. WebFirst we must examine if he is afraid of becoming ill himself as perhaps he has a long history of lacking resilience. (We do imitate our parents). I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Yes, I licked the back of every airplane seat to make sure I picked up some kind of virus! Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. Life goes on around us when we are sick. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 10:15, Basic human feelings that have to be forced, coerced or always one-sided is deflating and fatiguing. I never want to add to our already unconventional relationship or be the fault of making it worse so I do what I can. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. Submitted by jennalemone on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 14:09. Unreal. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. Perhaps he would consider reading the free treatment e-book (look in the treatment guide for it) and also consider adding some 'attend time' to his schedule. Pleasure. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. (not a good sign). We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. Thats I gave him other numbers to call of other therapist and he put the cards aside. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. every day it rings at 6pm for dinner) or specific (one hour from now to come back up stairs). I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. Until you are burnt out, and I finally notice something is wrong. I have taken you for granted. Imagine that. (sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without What? He reluctantly came up to the accident sight. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. Become a Mighty contributorhere. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. I told her that as long as I took it slow, I would be OK. My husband didn't offer to help, he just stood there, and I could hear the wheels turning in his head. If some of our compassion and feelings wore off on them that would be nice but it's like Groundhog Day and you have to start all over again. Do you think being obnoxious made him FOND of me? You cant change something you dont know needs to be fixed. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. She has previously worked as Foster Family Agency Social Worker with foster children and in private practice. Obviously. WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. Are you 5 years old? It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. WebMy girlfriend thinks I don't care for her but I do she's been sick for the past two days and I been trying to be nice by doing mostly everything for her I have to walk her to the bathroom give her medicine wash dishes pick up her groceries try to cook even though I'm not that good at it I have to get the bathtub filled for her I try my best to When he arrived, he did not hug me, ask how I was, or show ANY CARE. I felt like I was dying, inside and out. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! They are more important than you are. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. I love sex.while I am in the act of doing it..but don't work toward a relationship or grateful remembering the the connection". People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. There is no reason under the son a man or woman should be second to anyone when it comes to survival in health, shelter or love period. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. He doesn't want to connect it with his choices of not doing relationships very well, if at all. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. So, again, it's about him. They will always be more important than you. I agree his kids should come first. Best of Luck to you all and I look forward to reading your story. Now not now and love. Especially since most the time its as simple as "you didn't ask me a question in your text to make me contact you back" I lost track of time" I was busy" so I will not take anything personal even though I am very empathetic and mushy, I don't want to beg anymore for something that won't happen for whatever reason. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. Never underestimate the callousness of the narcissist. THAT, was fear. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. It sucks but thats what it is. I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. If it's me first? Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. He had the flu last year and I took care of him. And that look on his face is what I will always remember. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. I hope he gets the help he needs! Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. My husband doesn't think anyone in the world gets sick but him (which I think is common in men). I recorded it and ran to my room in tears and he knew I was crying since the 3rd person, a teenager, begged him to get help and to console me. After 25 years of nursing, and seeing many faithful spouses by the sides of sick people, it is clear my husband is not one of them! Get out now and look for greener pastured. A well spouses support and encouragement can help a partner stay on track, but this new role can also trigger frustration on both sides. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. When I had the flu really bad my kids did too and I still had to take care of everybody. not good. Someone who would listen to MY dreams, and want that for me, as much as I want his dreams and goals for him, and to help each other achieve those, if in our power. Does she get sick often?Wondering how sympathy for each other is usually when one of you is sick. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. Bottom line? He threatened to sue me and the doctor because the kid had to go temporarily on multiple antibiotics to help knock down the infections. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. She was in the hospital two days and has a 3 week recovery time frame. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. You must have JavaScript enabled to use this form. Born with a congenital heart condition, she survived two open heart surgeries before age 4. Duped again. I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. He didn't take me to the hospital, just put me back to bed. If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. And that doctor he threatened to sue likely saved his son's life. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. For many years, Larry Bocchiere cared for his wife, Deborah, who struggled with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". Its good to have a healthy balance. but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. All 3 of her children had severe issues, which she blamed on them. I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. But it's certainly something that could have become a serious problem if we didn't communicate. So I had been barfing all day long.almost going to the hostpital and was sicker than I had ever been before or after except with Appendicitis as an adult. Some people have zero bedside manner. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. I often hear that if a person wants to be with you, they will. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. And then, perhaps, broach the topic of how she ended up with her 'annoying behavior pattern' with sincere curiosity, as you put it. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. It was horrible since I did it secretly. Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. Good point. Submitted by kellyj on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 14:18. We went to the diner and my life changed. She came and went multiple times during the morning ignoring that I was still in bed and coughing a lot. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. That can be very hard to do! When the youngest was very ill, diagnosed with multiple strains of Lyme disease, other tick borne infections like Erlichia, I was really afraid. Not a very nice thing to do to someone you say you "love". You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. I'm feeling better now! If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. Someone who at times would look at me and just smile, (as if we shared a special secret), with eyes that showed gentleness, patience and strength, but with a reverent humility. But I havent been acting like it. They'll let me be to recuperate, since they know it's nasty. In the main area of the house there should be 2 colors, and now there are at least 5. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:55. Alright. Maybe talking to her would bring it to her attention. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to Don't misunderstand me - I get it. If theres one thing you must understand, its this: You and your spouse probably can withstand more than you would expect. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. Im worried and curious what to look for. You never waver. 2. Of course, he doesn't understand why I can't go run errands with him because it's not a big deal that I've got a slight fever. The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. And that was just with a scratchy throat. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. Then we must note that he attempts, albeit it is poor and generic advice, to advise you on your illness. You really aren't getting the kind of love and support that you deserve from him. Being intrusive and obnoxious so my partner would pay attention to me. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. If you live together, your partner may want to sleep in their own bed with you. Sign #11: Doesnt talk about the future. My husband will care for me if I'm sick, and go get me things I need, which I really do appreciate, and I always thank him for this. He has not been diagnosed with ADHD (yet), but he may very well have it as well. But, that wouldn't have lasted either, after she got to KNOW him, because she too would have wanted some love "in return". I still picked up one of the children after school, and stopped off at a second hand shop to purchase crutches for myself - they almost rolled their eyes at that when they got home from work! I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. WebBy sick, I mean a minor cold. Hearing him speak kindly of other folks, being gentler in his speech, since he KNOWS how unkind the world can be. Love. If anything, I am stronger in your eyes. It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. If there's not arguments over dumb shit then something is wrong. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. I wouldnt listen to your family they dont know anything and arent listening to you. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. Second, gently encourage him to connect. I have loved you for a long time, and we have been through so much together, but what Ive recently learned is this: You could care less about my illness. Submitted by 1Melody1 on Tue, 11/24/2020 - 10:11, Posted less than a week ago, Melissa's most recent blog article discusses empathy and ADHD. Once again I get "That's great! I'm taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, making meals. He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. Submitted by overwhelmedwife on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 06:05. a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read, Tell me about it..My husband lacks sympathy for me and the kids, His entertainment comes before anything else, They take as much as they can for as long as we allow it, Yes Dear Dede sadly we do know of that you speak:), https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. We are at retirement age, but will never GET to retire. 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